In your efforts to continuously improve care being offered to survivors and family members–and anyone suffering from post-traumatic stress–please take a look at how trauma-informed care options are. If you need resources, there are many, but here are a few. Fr. Ken Schmidt has written a wonderful description for The Healing Voices Magazine about trauma-informed… Read More It’s Critical: Trauma-Informed Care
Fr. Lewis S. Fiorelli, OSFS, Our Lady of Good Counsel Parish, Vienna, VA The relationship between an adult survivor of child sexual abuse and God is fraught with many challenges, not the least among which is prayer. How can adult victims pray to God when God was not there for them while they were being… Read More PRAYER: A CHALLENGE FOR SURVIVORS
Fr. Larry Dowling, St. Agatha Church, Chicago In my work over twenty-five years as a priest, with over 20 years in two parishes where I followed a priest-abuser, this is the question that will often be expressed from those abused. “Where was God when this was happening to me?” The question is especially poignant when… Read More Where Was God When This Was Happening to Me?
Michael D. Hoffman, Founder I didn’t want to tell them. Even as an adult, I didn’t want to tell them. It took me years of counseling, and a lot of hard work, but I finally told them their little boy was sexually abused by their priest friend at the time. My parents live in the… Read More A Model of Reconciliation: My Parents
Deborah Kloos Forgiveness has been a cornerstone in my healing, and my healing from abuse has freed me to do things I never thought I would do. I never thought I would be speaking at my father’s funeral, whom I was estranged from for 30 years. I was afraid of my father as a child.… Read More Requiescat in Pace
By Mike, Founder It doesn’t happen all by itself. In fact, if I’m not careful, it can be a real mess. Each year, I must prepare myself for Christmas. By this I mean, I must prepare my heart. I have experienced calm, peaceful joyous wonderment in my family relationships, with my friends, at our parish… Read More Preparing Myself for Christmas
By Kathy, Founder As a child, I can recall many different emotions as the holidays came around. Before the age of seven, when abuse began for me, I recall the excitement, the joy, the magic of Christmas. Wondering each year what Santa was going to bring to me, in hopes always of a new baby doll.… Read More Magic of the Holidays
I think modern medicine has become like a prophet offering a life free of pain. It is nonsense. The only thing I know that truly heals people is unconditional love. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross